I always believed that Love is that binding factor which combines us into that sweet ball called family.Family can only be the barbed wire to remove the oblivion from the mind of the child. For this parents have to bury their indifference and be always in love. I always tried to maintain this aura in my family which to a greater extent worked out and till date we have a Transparent family.We always try to maintain these 'panchsattya' in our small family
* Children should see parents respecting each other - this teaches the children to respect people outside.
*Whatever be the mental situation between parents children should never be able to understand it - if they can understand,then they might become a rebel.
*A tight hug , a small kiss on the forehead always helps - children become very understanding and soft spoken.
*Sleeping together in the same bed with our kids also works out to a greater extent - they start feeling that they are very important for their parents( though this only is extended till the child is a teenager after that they should be given their freedom).
*Lastly we should never discuss any family related problems in front of kids - this makes them feel that they are a burden for the family.
But the most important of all is that binding factor between mummy and daddy. I remember once my neighbor's Mr and Mrs Sen who was a newly wed couple had a great fight and Mrs Sen had started walking out of the house but it was then that a patrolling policeman saw her and logged a complain against her husband and on that ground the husband had to face the music of the police.It was then that we had to intervene they being our neighbor we had to finally assured the police and bought the couple home . Not only this there were several other small fights which this newly wed neighbor always had.
All this had disturbed my teenaged daughter and she went on asking that " Why do people marry,if they have to fight?" It was great pain to explain her and we after that decided never even to conversed in a loud tone and my husband made it a point to give me a tight hug whenever I was sad , or depressed because of work pressure and vice-versa. We always created an aura of love and respect for each other and always followed the 'PANCHSATTYA'.
This we did it for our kids .... thus I feel we should abolish all our difference and follow the PANCHSATTYA.
* Children should see parents respecting each other - this teaches the children to respect people outside.
*Whatever be the mental situation between parents children should never be able to understand it - if they can understand,then they might become a rebel.
*A tight hug , a small kiss on the forehead always helps - children become very understanding and soft spoken.
*Sleeping together in the same bed with our kids also works out to a greater extent - they start feeling that they are very important for their parents( though this only is extended till the child is a teenager after that they should be given their freedom).
*Lastly we should never discuss any family related problems in front of kids - this makes them feel that they are a burden for the family.
But the most important of all is that binding factor between mummy and daddy. I remember once my neighbor's Mr and Mrs Sen who was a newly wed couple had a great fight and Mrs Sen had started walking out of the house but it was then that a patrolling policeman saw her and logged a complain against her husband and on that ground the husband had to face the music of the police.It was then that we had to intervene they being our neighbor we had to finally assured the police and bought the couple home . Not only this there were several other small fights which this newly wed neighbor always had.
All this had disturbed my teenaged daughter and she went on asking that " Why do people marry,if they have to fight?" It was great pain to explain her and we after that decided never even to conversed in a loud tone and my husband made it a point to give me a tight hug whenever I was sad , or depressed because of work pressure and vice-versa. We always created an aura of love and respect for each other and always followed the 'PANCHSATTYA'.
This we did it for our kids .... thus I feel we should abolish all our difference and follow the PANCHSATTYA.
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